We make a surprising number of assumptions about people based on what we see of them today. We know how they behave, how they respond to certain situations, and perhaps a little about their personal history. From that, we develop an idea of who they are.
Usually, there's quite a bit we don't know.
Veterans Day brings this to mind because military service is one of those experiences that can be difficult to fully appreciate from the outside.
We recognize the commitment and sacrifice involved in serving our country, but individual experiences vary considerably. Some veterans look back on their service with tremendous pride and fond memories. Others have more complicated feelings about certain parts of it. Many have both.
Some enjoy telling stories about their years in the military. Others prefer to keep those experiences private. Neither tells us everything about what their service meant to them.
And it would be a mistake to assume that every veteran has experienced trauma or struggles with mental health. Military service is part of someone's history, but it doesn't define everything about them.
I think there's a broader lesson here about how little we sometimes know about the people around us.
We don't necessarily know what someone has lost, what they've survived, or what responsibilities they've carried. We may have no idea which experiences shaped their opinions, their reactions, or the way they approach relationships.
People shouldn't have to explain difficult experiences to earn a little understanding.
On Veterans Day, we have an opportunity to recognize the men and women who have served, including those who remain active members of our families and communities long after their military service has ended.
We can appreciate their contribution without making assumptions about their experiences. And when someone chooses to share part of their story, we can take the time to listen.
To the veterans in our families, among our friends, and throughout our communities, thank you for your service.
Happy Veterans Day from Inspired Life Wellness Clinic.
Christine Aman MBA,MSN, APRN, NPc
